菜单
国际教育网
搜索繁体
首页学校留学家长进修学习资源

我们不一定要成为厉害的父母,但可以成为“稳定、在场”的大人 | 《陪你到清晨》 Love is "be there"

2026-01-27 08:53发布于广东

关注

教师、家长观影分享


上周,我们一同走进影院,观看了国内首部聚焦儿童青少年心理健康的纪录电影《陪你到清晨》。影片跟随高中生闭国锦的视角,将我们带入北京安定医院——那里既有孩子们日常学习游戏的平静画面,也记录了他们深夜情绪失控、甚至自伤的揪心时刻,以及医护人员始终如一的专业安抚与治疗。

Last week, we gathered for a screening of the adolescent mental health documentary When the Night Meets Light. Through the perspective of high school student Bi Guojin, the film took us inside Beijing Anding Hospital, showing quiet moments of study and play alongside distressing scenes of nighttime emotional crises and self-harm, all met with the steady, professional care of medical staff.



这场观影,让我们看见的,远不止于病症。

What we witnessed went far beyond symptoms.


我们看到的,是一种父母不知道该从哪里开始的无力感。当医院联系闭国锦的父亲了解情况时,那句“感觉他挺正常的,和其他孩子差不多”,并非冷漠,而是许多父母真实的判断方式——当孩子没有明显异常、也很少表达时,我们往往无从判断他的内心正在发生什么。许多困惑与烦闷,正是在最亲近的人身边悄然沉默的。面对青春期的情绪起伏,很多父母都会迟疑:是不是想多了?可如果不是,又该从哪里开始?而影片提醒我们,很多情绪困扰,无法被一句“叛逆”轻易概括。

What we see is not indifference, but parents unsure where to begin. When the hospital contacted Guojin’s father, his response—“He seems normal, like other kids”—reflected a common reality: when children show no obvious signs and say little, their inner struggles often go unnoticed. Faced with the emotional ups and downs of adolescence, parents hesitate—am I overthinking, or missing something important? The film reminds us that such struggles cannot simply be dismissed as “rebellion.”



我们看见的,是学校与社会支持的力量。影片启示我们,青少年心理问题值得被高度重视,但并不可怕。正如医生所做的那样:允许情绪释放,但同时坚定地告知底线——不自伤、不逾矩。这需要家庭给予更多重视,也需要学校与社会报以更多宽容与支持。本次由华外心理健康教育中心携手岭南教育慈善基金会组织的公益观影活动,正是出于这样的初心:希望联动家长、老师与社区,共同营造一个更温馨友善的成长环境,陪伴孩子们走过阴霾,迎接清晨的曙光。

We also witnessed the strength of school and community support. The film shows that youth mental health deserves serious attention—but is not to be feared. As the doctors demonstrate: allow emotions to surface while firmly upholding boundaries—no self-harm, no harmful behavior. This calls for greater awareness at home and more understanding from schools and society. This charity screening, organized by the HW Mental Health Education Center and the Lingnan Education Charity Foundation, was held with this very purpose: to connect parents, teachers, and the community in building a warmer, more supportive environment where young people can move through difficulty toward the light of dawn.



一位老师在观后分享中深深共鸣:

One teacher shared after the film:

“真正的陪伴,意味着愿意走进另一个人的黑夜,承受那些无法言说的痛苦,在对方最脆弱的时刻保持在场——即使这种在场常常是无言的、笨拙的,甚至充满挫折的。”


另一位中小学心理教师的感受同样深刻:

A school counselor reflected:

“在青少年心理工作中,我们遇到许多类似情况。孩子的问题背后,往往存在着家庭系统的问题。问题本身或许并不严重,其背后更多是支持的匮乏,尤其是来自家庭与人际的理解与接纳。家庭沟通的改善通常是关键且困难的一环,需要家长经历一个认识、觉醒到改变的过程。很多时候,当家长开始变化,孩子的问题便迎刃而解。就像影片中的闭国锦,因ADHD(注意缺陷多动障碍)难以自控,又因原生家庭的缘故在孤独中成长。这些他无法选择的事,导致他长期不被认可、理解与尊重。他何尝不想变得更好?只是不擅表达的他,从未被真正看见。而当他在治疗中被看见、被接住,改变便在短时间内发生。这次活动意义非凡,它让长期被忽视的心理健康问题拥有了更多被看见的可能,这对孩子、家长、临床工作者以及心理教师而言,都是一次宝贵的成长。”

假期临近,华外心理健康教育中心也为家庭准备了一份“亲子陪伴实用工具”,期待能助力您与孩子共度更有质量的时光。感兴趣的家长,可以扫描下方二维码获取相关资源。

With the break approaching, the HW Mental Health Center has prepared a “Practical Guide for Family Connection” to help families spend quality time together. Interested parents can scan the QR code below for resources.


1. 优势聚焦法:帮助孩子发现自身闪光点。可通过列优势清单、具体表扬正向行为、将优势融入日常生活等途径实现。

Strengths-Focused Approach: Help youth recognize their strengths—list them, offer specific praise for positive behavior, and integrate strengths into daily routines.


2. 自主选择法:让孩子参与假期规划。例如共同商议计划、提供有限但有意义的选择、并允许在执行中灵活调整。

Choice-Based Planning: Involve children in break planning—discuss together, offer limited but meaningful options, and allow flexibility along the way.


3. 积极倾听法:妥善承接孩子情绪。关键在于放下主观预判、首先接纳情绪表达,待情绪平复后再进行理性引导。

Active Listening: Hold space for emotions—suspend judgment, acknowledge feelings first, then guide toward reason once calm returns.


4.家庭积极仪式感:用温暖的仪式凝聚家庭时光。例如设立定期家庭分享时刻、共同完成一项假期仪式、协商制定属于自家的“小约定”。

Family Rituals with Heart: Strengthen family bonds through meaningful routines. For example, establish regular sharing moments, create a special holiday tradition together, or develop unique family agreements through discussion.


说明:上述资料知识产权归华外同文外国语学校心理健康中心所有,仅供学生家长用于家庭教育参考。扫码获取即视为同意不将资料用于任何商业目的或恶意传播。


让我们从看见开始,用理解与陪伴,共同守护每一个孩子的清晨。

Let’s start by seeing. With understanding and companionship, let’s guard every child’s dawn.

声明:本文内容为国际教育号作者发布,不代表国际教育网的观点和立场,本平台仅提供信息存储服务。

免费联系华外同文外国语学校

联系学校

提交成功后可以直接一键联系学校哦!

快速匹配适合您孩子的学校

全国500所国际学校大全 / 3分钟匹配5-8所 / 1年名校升学备考托管服务

立即匹配

预约看校

提交