共学·共思·共成长——彼一米学校家委代表赴北京参加家校社协同育人研讨会所感 I Co-Learning · Co-Reflection · Co-Growth

教育是家庭与学校双向奔赴的旅程。在彼一米，我们以家委会为纽带，共建温暖的学习型社区，让每一次成长都浸润理解与温度。

2026年1月11日，长沙彼一米森林学校三位家委会成员在小学部张校带领下，赴北京海嘉学校参加“科技赋能，共育未来——AI时代家校协同的工具与温度”主题研讨会。此次学习，是学校系统赋能家委会、深化家校共育的重要实践。我们始终视家委会为教育同行者与共建者，通过专业培训、资源支持与深度对话，持续构建“学校引领、家庭协同、社区滋养”的学习共同体。今日，我们以三位家委的原声分享，见证家校携手共育的深度思考与温暖实践。 

让家回归“家”，让教育回归“生活”

会上孙云晓副会长的话如清泉入心：

“人工智能是人的解放不是枷锁，是人的助手不是对手，是成长的机遇不是障碍。”

“AI时代最珍贵的是心灵的温度、审美的情趣、坚毅的品格、选择的智慧——而这些都是家庭生活教育的核心内容。”

让我们用数据说话：

• 每天与家人共进早餐的孩子，学业成绩平均高29分；

• 拥有安静独立学习空间的家庭，孩子成绩高36分；

• 家庭藏书量超200本，成绩优势达109分。

曾琦教授从脑科学角度点醒我们：

“大脑在应激、威胁和习得无助等消极情绪影响下，会出现“功能降低”——感知范围缩小、高层次思维基本停止。儿童必须在感到身体安全和情绪安定的情况下，才能将注意集中在认知学习上。”

杨娟教授则提醒：

“成绩差的背后，可能是自我效能感低、上课未专注、作业拖拉、内容太难或考试压力大。家长要读懂孩子，在学习动力、策略与习惯上提供支持。”

我的感悟：

作为家长，在AI时代，我们要“让人更像人，让孩子更像孩子”。把越来越像学校的家庭氛围，转变回温馨、美好、充满爱的生活场域。理解孩子情绪波动源于大脑发育的不均衡，给予稳定平和的家庭环境，赋予安全感与松弛感。从认真生活、承担家务开始，培养责任感，树立社会使命——让孩子不再紧盯分数，而是放眼高远目标，坚持做“难而正确的事”，这才能真正驱散青春期的虚无感。

AI不是替代教育，而是成就更好的教育

这场研讨会让我看见教育的破局之光：

AI的出现，让个性化教育从理念变为现实——精准捕捉知识弱点与盲点，形成学情大数据，让老师的教学更具针对性，让孩子摆脱盲目刷题与拔苗助长的困境。

若家校打通AI教育平台，构建无缝衔接的协同闭环，AI会：

• 是孩子随时可及的私人助教；

• 是家长与老师的高阶助理；

• 更是学校教育教学的智慧管理者。

但技术终需人文托底：

AI不仅改变教育形式，更将重塑教育本质。确定性知识获取成本趋近于零，教育必须转向批判性思维、创造力、系统解决问题能力与跨学科融合能力的培养。

教育的最终目标，是培育能与AI协同工作、拥有独立思想、心怀温度、肩有担当的人——成为兼具学习力、创造力、责任感与幸福感的终身学习者。

我坚信：

AI赋能教育，不是让技术替代教育，而是让技术成就更好的教育。这条全新的教育路径，离不开家校同心、形成共识，用科学的理念、智慧的选择，携手为孩子搭建适应未来的成长平台。

教育在窗外，关系先于教育

“回归生活，以关系赋能成长——AI时代，教育本质是生活教育。AI是助手而非对手，无法替代人类的创造力、艺术涵养与品格培育。”

我们常陷误区：家庭过度“学校化”，重学业轻生活。而真相是——没有孩子会从不喜欢的人那里学到东西（“亲其师，信其道”同样适用于亲子）；前额叶皮层约39岁才完全成熟——青春期的“叛逆”是发育常态，需理解而非苛责。

许多“问题行为”背后有深层原因，理解是解决的第一步。

分龄养育指南，字字珍贵：

小学阶段（6-12岁）：

• 1-2年级：保护好奇心与学习自信，不强调排名；

• 3-4年级：关注爬坡期，避免成绩分化；

• 5-6年级：培养元认知能力，学会复盘。

初高中阶段（12-18岁）：

• 接纳“顶嘴”是生理现象，多包容少指责；

• 主动聊恋爱、人生观，坦诚沟通胜于压抑；

• 帮助探索“我是谁”，建立健康自我认同。

我的行动清单：

1. 夫妻关系是家庭轴心，用温暖氛围滋养成长；

2. 鼓励家务劳动——超40%孩子不做家务，劳动是责任感的最佳土壤；

3. 减少屏幕时间，增加做饭、阅读、户外探索等真实体验；

4. 早餐桌是交流圣地，藏书与共读是家庭底色；

5. 遇问题先问“为什么”，情绪安全比学业成绩更基础。

最后，送给自己三句话：

• 教育在窗外：生活即教育，体验即学习；

• 关系先于教育：先修复关系，再解决问题；

• 成长是长跑：顺应规律，放下焦虑，用陪伴代替催促。

真正的教育，是让孩子在热爱的生活中，成长为完整而幸福的人。在AI时代，我们更需要培养孩子们有温度的情感、有创造力的思维、有根基的品格。"

三位家委的深度思考，正是彼一米森林学校共建学习型社区理念的生动回响。

• 我们系统培养家委会：定期组织专业研修、名校参访、教育沙龙，让家委成为家庭教育的“领读者”与家校沟通的“连心桥”；

• 我们共建温暖社区：通过“亲子劳动日”“家庭读书会”“成长故事分享会”，将教育融入生活日常；

• 我们坚持双向滋养：学校开放课程资源，家庭贡献生活智慧，社区提供实践场景——三方合力，织就孩子成长的支持网络。

张校在总结时深情寄语：

“家委会不是学校的‘辅助者’，而是教育生态的‘共建者’。每一次学习、每一次分享，都在为彼一米的学习共同体注入温度与力量。我们珍视每一位家长的成长，因为您的觉醒与行动，是孩子最坚实的底气。”

致每一位同行者

无需宏大叙事，教育藏于日常：

• 今晚，和孩子一起洗碗，聊聊今天的小确幸；

• 明晚，留10分钟安静共读，听他讲一个天马行空的梦；

• 当他情绪低落，轻声问：“需要妈妈抱抱，还是聊聊？

长沙彼一米森林学校始终相信：

家校共育，不是单向输出，而是双向奔赴；

不是完美父母，而是真实陪伴；

不是追逐风口，而是守护初心。

感谢Olivia/Alex妈妈、Kathy妈妈、Krisha/Cici妈妈的真诚分享——

你们的文字有光，你们的行动有温。

彼一米愿与万千家庭携手：

以生活滋养生命，以关系温暖成长，

在科技奔涌的时代，

做孩子心中那盏不灭的、有温度的灯。

本文内容源自三位家委学习实录，原声呈现。欢迎您在评论区留言：“我家的共育小确幸”！

Education is a journey of mutual commitment between family and school. At Changsha BeeMee Forest School, we use the Parent Committee as a bond to jointly build a warm learning community where every moment of growth is infused with understanding and warmth.

On January 11, 2026, three members of the Parent Committee from Changsha BeeMee Forest School, led by Principal Zhang, traveled to Beijing Haige School to attend a seminar themed "Technology Empowerment, Co-Educating the Future—Tools and Warmth of Home-School Collaboration in the AI Era." This learning experience represents an important practice of the school's systematic empowerment of the Parent Committee and deepening of home-school collaboration. We have always regarded the Parent Committee as education partners and co-builders, continuously constructing a learning community where "the school provides guidance, families collaborate, and the community nourishes" through professional training, resource support, and in-depth dialogue. Today, we present the authentic voices of three parent committee members, witnessing thoughtful reflections and warm practices of home-school collaboration.

Returning Homes to Being "Homes," Returning Education to "Life"

The words of Vice Chairman Sun Yunxiao flowed into my heart like clear spring water: "Artificial intelligence liberates humans rather than shackles them; it serves as an assistant rather than an opponent; it presents opportunities for growth rather than obstacles.' 'In the AI era, what's most precious is the warmth of the heart, aesthetic sensibility, resilient character, and the wisdom of making choices—all core elements of family life education."

Let the data speak:

• Children who share breakfast with family daily score 29 points higher academically on average;

• Families with quiet, independent study spaces see their children's scores 36 points higher;

• Homes with over 200 books provide a 109-point academic advantage.

Professor Zeng Qi enlightened us from a neuroscience perspective: "Under negative emotions such as stress, threat, and learned helplessness, the brain experiences 'functional reduction'—perceptual range narrows, and higher-level thinking essentially stops. Children must feel physically safe and emotionally secure before they can focus their attention on cognitive learning."

Professor Yang Juan reminded us: "Poor grades may stem from low self-efficacy, lack of classroom focus, procrastination on homework, overly difficult content, or exam pressure. Parents need to understand their children and provide support in learning motivation, strategies, and habits."

My reflections: As parents in the AI era, we must "make humans more human, and children more childlike." We should transform family environments that have increasingly resembled schools back into warm, beautiful, love-filled spaces of living. Understanding that children's emotional fluctuations stem from uneven brain development, we should provide stable, peaceful home environments that offer security and a sense of ease. Beginning with taking household responsibilities seriously and participating in chores, we cultivate a sense of responsibility and establish a sense of social mission—helping children look beyond scores toward lofty goals, persisting in doing "difficult but right things," which truly dispels the sense of emptiness during adolescence.

AI Doesn't Replace Education, But Creates Better Education

This seminar revealed a breakthrough in education: "The emergence of AI has transformed personalized education from concept to reality—precisely identifying knowledge weaknesses and blind spots, forming comprehensive learning data that makes teachers' instruction more targeted, freeing children from meaningless question drills and the dilemma of premature development."

If families and schools integrate AI education platforms to build a seamless collaborative cycle:

• AI becomes children's "private tutor available anytime";

• It serves as a "high-level assistant" for parents and teachers;

• And functions as the school's "intelligent educational manager.

But technology must be grounded in humanity:

"AI not only changes educational formats but will reshape the essence of education. The cost of acquiring deterministic knowledge approaches zero, so education must shift toward cultivating critical thinking, creativity, systematic problem-solving abilities, and interdisciplinary integration capabilities."

"The ultimate goal of education is to nurture individuals who can collaborate with AI, possess independent thinking, carry warmth in their hearts, and take responsibility on their shoulders—becoming lifelong learners with learning ability, creativity, responsibility, and happiness."

My conviction: "AI empowers education not by letting technology replace education, but by allowing technology to create better education. This new educational path requires schools and families to unite with shared understanding, using scientific concepts and wise choices to build a future-ready growth platform for our children together."

Education Is Outside the Window, Relationship Comes Before Education

"Return to life, empower growth through relationships—In the AI era, the essence of education is life education. AI is an assistant, not an opponent, unable to replace human creativity, artistic cultivation, and character development."

We often fall into the trap of over-'schoolifying' homes, emphasizing academics while neglecting life. The truth is—'no child learns from someone they don't like' ('respect the teacher, believe the path' applies equally to parent-child relationships); 'the prefrontal cortex doesn't fully mature until around age 39'—adolescent 'rebellion' is a developmental norm requiring understanding rather than harsh criticism; many 'problem behaviors' have deeper causes, where understanding is the first step to resolution."

Age-specific parenting guidelines, each word precious:

Elementary School Stage (6-12 years):

• Grades 1-2: Protect curiosity and learning confidence, don't emphasize rankings;

• Grades 3-4: Focus on this crucial developmental period, prevent academic divergence;

• Grades 5-6: Cultivate metacognitive abilities, learn to review and reflect.

Middle/High School Stage (12-18 years):

• Accept that 'talking back' is a physiological phenomenon - be more tolerant, less critical;

• Initiate conversations about relationships, life philosophy - honest communication surpasses suppression;

• Help them explore 'who I am,' establishing healthy self-identity.

My action list: 

1. The marital relationship is the family's core - nourish growth with a warm atmosphere; 

2. Encourage household chores - over 40% of children don't do chores; labor is the best soil for responsibility; 

3. Reduce screen time, increase authentic experiences like cooking, reading, and outdoor exploration; 

4. The breakfast table is a sanctuary for communication; book collections and shared reading form the family's foundation; 

5. When problems arise, first ask 'why' - emotional security is more fundamental than academic performance.

Finally, three sentences for myself: 

• Education is outside the window: Life is education, experience is learning;

• Relationship comes before education: Repair relationships first, then solve problems; 

• Growth is a marathon: Follow natural rhythms, release anxiety, replace urging with companionship.

True education helps children grow into complete, happy individuals through lives they love. In the AI era, we need to cultivate children with warm emotions, creative thinking, and grounded character.

BeeMee's Resonance: School and Family United, Building a Forest of Growth

The deep reflections of these three parent committee members vividly echo Changsha BeeMee Forest School's philosophy of jointly building a warm learning community.

• We systematically develop our Parent Committee: Organizing regular professional workshops, visits to prestigious schools, and educational salons, enabling committee members to become "reading guides" for family education and "connecting bridges" for home-school communication;

• We build a warm community together: Through "Parent-Child Labor Days," "Family Reading Clubs," and "Growth Story Sharing Sessions," we integrate education into daily life;

• We insist on mutual nourishment: The school opens course resources; families contribute life wisdom; the community provides practice scenarios—three forces working together to weave a support network for children's growth.

Principal Zhang concluded with heartfelt words: "The Parent Committee is not the school's 'assistant' but a 'co-builder' of the educational ecosystem. Every learning session, every sharing moment infuses warmth and strength into Changsha BeeMee's learning community. We cherish every parent's growth because your awakening and actions are the firmest foundation for your children."

To Every Fellow Traveler

No grand narratives needed—education hides in daily life:

• Tonight, wash dishes with your child and chat about today's small joys;

• Tomorrow night, reserve 10 quiet minutes to read together, listening to their fantastical dreams;

• When they're low, gently ask: "Do you need a hug from Mom, or would you like to talk?"

Changsha BeeMee Forest School always believes: Home-school co-education isn't one-way output but mutual commitment; It's not about perfect parents but authentic companionship; It's not chasing trends but guarding original intentions.

We thank Olivia/Alex's mother, Kathy's mother, and Krisha/Cici's mother for their sincere sharing - Your words shine with light, your actions radiate warmth.

Changsha BeeMee wishes to join hands with thousands of families: Nourishing life through living, warming growth through relationships, in this era of surging technology, Being that unextinguished, warm light in our children's hearts.

This article is based on authentic records from the three parent committee members' learning experience.

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