袁女士在开篇时提出：在小学阶段，孩子们接收更多的是来自于家长和老师的评价；但当来到中学阶段，随着年龄和心智的成长，他们逐渐地开始不完全依赖和赞同于家庭和老师的评价，转而开始受到同学和伙伴的影响，开始在意自身的存在感，和来自于他人的认同感，以及自身能否创造价值。

At the beginning of the session, Ms. Yuan pointed out that during elementary school years, kids receive more feedback and comments from parents and teachers. However, by the time they reach middle or high school, they no longer rely on and agree to the comments given by their parents and teachers as they grow mature. Instead, they are likely to be influenced by their peers and become more self-concious. They care about whether others can identify with them, and whether they can create value by themselves.

袁女士通过视频和案例分享告诉我们：现在中学生的社交矛盾普遍来自于非常在意自身的存在感，双方对于一件事的不同看法和不当的情绪管理。在遇到这些问题的时候，不要把它们当成是一件小事，要重视起来，通过沟通去解决矛盾。

Ms. Yuan told us by analyzing some video cases that the social conflicts among high school students generally result from the fact that they care too much about their own presence, and from their different views on one issue and their improper management of emotions. When you encounter these problems, don't consider them as trivial. Instead, you should take them seriously and solve conflicts through communication.

接着，袁女士分享到，现在有很多孩子存在社交障碍问题：不敢发表自己的意见、在公共场合不敢说话等。这些问题可能来自于从小缺少表达自我的机会和权力。因此，解决社交障碍最重要的一点就是要学会勇于争取，勇于表达。可以先从跟自己最好的朋友聊天开始，慢慢地试着跟两个人、三个人、十个人一起聊天，过渡到可以站在众人面前发表演讲，在循序渐进中克服自己的社交障碍。

Then, she went on to say that nowadays, many kids have trouble socializing with others: they are afraid to express their opinions, and to speak in public, etc. These problems may result from a lack of opportunities and power to express themselves at an early age. Therefore, the most important tip she gave us on how to remove our social barriers is to learn to seize opportunities and be brave to express ourselves. We may begin by chatting with one of our best friends, and then 2, 3, and ten. Step by step, we may be able to stand and speak in public, thus breaking down our social barriers.

之后，袁女士谈到，还有一部分孩子存在着“社交委屈”现象。这些孩子在社交中像受气包一样，好像总是在被人欺负。实际上，社交委屈的背后是孩子的情绪没有被他人重视，或者从小就受到影响，认为自己在社交中就应该扮演着某一种角色，他们从来都没有想过如何去解决问题。袁女士提出，很多孩子在遇到社交委屈时会选择沉默，自己消化情绪，他们害怕家长和老师的不理解和不认可。但其实这个时候应该把自己的情绪倾诉出来，能够说出来，委屈就已经消了一半。并且，当我们遇到他人倾诉的时候，也要做到静静地聆听和陪伴，帮助他人消解委屈。

Later, Ms. Yuan talked about the "social grievance" harbored by some kids. These kids act like doormats while socializing with others, as if they were always being bullied. In fact, the reason why they are socially grieved is that their emotions are ignored by others, or that they have been negatively affected since childhood, so they think that they are supposed to play a certain role in social interaction, and they have never thought about how to solve the problem. Ms. Yuan pointed out that many kids choose to be silent and get rid of bad mood by themselves after they are socially wronged because they fear that parents and teachers will not understand and accept them. However, actually they should choose to unleash their emotions at this moment, because if they are able to reveal their sorrows. In addition, while they are making complaints, we should be with them and listen quietly so that we can help them get rid of their grievance.

袁女士还提到有关青春时期的恋爱问题，她认为，在青春懵懂的时期对他人产生好感是正常的，但是需要注意边界，也需要明白在一段关系中，双方能否彼此为对方提供能量，一起成长是很重要的。我们要多体验，多感受，而不是一股脑扎进一段关系。

Ms. Yuan also touched on the issue of puberty romance. She said that it is common to have a good impression of someone else during puberty, but teenagers need to be aware of boundaries and understand that in a relationship, it is important for both parties to support each other and grow up together. We need to enrich our experiences and feelings instead of falling in love with someone blindly.

“社会交往本身的目的不是为了社会交往，而是让自己成长，让自己增加正能量。在社交中最重要的一定是爱自己。社交不是为了让自己委曲求全，去适应别人的需求。而是让自己变得舒服，让自己变得成长，让自己变得有能量，同时也用自己这种积极的能量去影响他人。”

"The purpose of social interaction itself is not to socialize with others, but to allow ourselves to grow up, and to fill ourselves with positive energy. The most important tip on socializing with others is to be sure to love ourselves. Socializing is not about bending yourself to fit someone else's needs. Instead, it's about making ourselves comfortable, mature and powerful. Meanwhile we should exert positive influence on others." 

“在生活中不要太在乎别人的评价，只有自己了解自己想要什么。面对他人的评价，有则改之无则加勉。在社交中找到自己，并呵护和爱自己，这才是社交最重要的点。”

"Don't worry too much about others’ comments on us. Only you know what you want. It is wise to correct your mistakes if there is any, and keep the good record if none has been committed when facing others’ judgments. The most important tip on socializing with others is to find and love yourselves"

这是袁怡婷女士在最后送给同学们的两句话，希望同学们可以共勉，并祝福宏润博源的孩子们都可以在花季收获美好！

Ms. Yuan concluded her session by sharing the above words with the students and sent her best wishes.