美凯思开学季 | 面对分离焦虑，你准备好了吗？

深圳美凯思幼儿园

2021-08-30

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面对宝宝的分离焦虑，记住这几招！

When your child’s separation anxiety

appears,remember these tips!

· 制造短暂的分离

· 给孩子准备安抚物品

· 多给孩子正向鼓励

· 和孩子约定好接送时间并遵守承诺

· Create a brief separation

· Prepare comfort items for your child

· Give your child more positive

encouragement

· Set up a pickup time in kindergarten with

your child and keep your promise.

随着时间的推移，九月就要到来，入园的日子进入倒计时，宝爸宝妈、宝宝们准备的怎么样了？从家庭到幼儿园，是孩子迈向社会的第一步，这个过程除了孩子需要适应之外，家长们也面临着诸多挑战，有的家长可能已经过上“坐立难安”的日子了。

As time goes by,September is coming.Only a few days remaining for kids going to kindergarten.Are you ready for that?From family to kindergarten,that is the first step of children go to society.This process is which not only children need get used to,but also parents will face challenges from.Maybe some of you will feel anxious.

应该如何应对第一次的分离焦虑呢？

How to deal with separation anxiety of the first time?

案例一 / Case one

我的宝贝两岁半，刚入幼儿园托班一周，他是个男孩。孩子的性格从小就很开朗，也很懂事。因为长期是我和我母亲带他，他接触的人就是游乐场的小朋友，我和我妈在场的时候，孩子和别人交往玩耍都很不错，只是在长辈面前会耍赖，因为隔代教育，他们都非常的溺爱他。最近入园，在幼儿园前两天都是一直哭着扯着妈妈，情绪非常的不稳定，第二天、第三天有所好转，但是孩子就是坐不住，而且中午在家都是午睡的，在幼儿园一次都没有午睡，喂奶也不要老师喂。今天孩子又哭闹了，并且都不跟老师小朋友互动，坐在很远的地方。

My child,a two and a half years old boy who went to kindergarten just for one week.I think his character is open and sensible.My mother and I usually take him to pleasure ground.So he likes to play with children over there.Ordinarily he can play with them well.But sometimes he will break rules because of elders ’ doting.Recently ,the first two days in kindergarten.He can’t keep separate from his mummy,and his emotional instability is very obvious.Next two days, it goes better a little bit.He can’t stop moving ,doesn’t drink milk and doesn’t take afternoon nap in kindergarten .But he doesn’t do these home.Today,he cries again,doesn’t want to have any interaction with anybody and stays far away from them.

分析 /

孩子在熟悉的家人在场的情况下和其他小朋友的社交玩耍都可以，这种情况是常见的因分离而导致的焦虑。分离焦虑从6个月大到3-4岁的小朋友中是非常常见的，尤其是第一次离开熟悉的家人，到陌生的环境，如幼儿园在较长的时间都要面对不熟悉的监管人（老师），出现焦虑是很正常的现象，这个过程对孩子和家长都可能引起不安，大部分孩子会慢慢调节适应。首先，家长要学会放手，不要过于担心，焦虑的情绪是会传染的，如果在孩子面前表现得过于担心，孩子会更加的没有安全感。所以家长也要轻松自如的去面对。

Analysis: Children just can play well in front of family members who he gets familiar with.Normally it’s because of separation anxiety.Separation anxiety usually appears from 6 months to 3 years old and sometimes even to 4.Specially when children go to new place without family members.So it’s an usual situation in kindergarten.Parents should take it easy and trust the little ones can get over it.

案例二 / Case two

小H上托班时，还不太会说话，刚来上体验课的时候孩子非常的喜欢幼儿园，总是玩到最后在妈妈的哄骗下回家。到了开学日，宝贝来得比较晚，我询问妈妈，妈妈说他一直在家要这要那的，耽误了时间。从妈妈手中接过他，小H表现得非常棒，跟妈妈主动再见，到班上主动吃饭，吃完后自己就去区角玩，上午安然的度过了。但到了午睡的时候突然嚎啕大哭，怎么也哄不好，最后哭累了在老师的怀里睡着了。起床后情绪不佳，饭也没吃水也不喝，嗓子也哑了。到了放学后教师跟家长详细的说了孩子在园一天的情况，请妈妈在家帮孩子多补充水分。

When little H is in nursery class，he can’t express too much.He likes demo class in kindergarten very much at first even don’t want to go home.But when the new term begins,he is late .From his mummy ,I know he has many requirements before going out.He has a good state in the morning:say goodbye to mummy,eat and play well.But when all the children need take afternoon nap,little H cries aloud until fall asleep in teacher ’arms.When he wakes up,he refuses to eat and drink and his voice is dumb.After school in kindergarten，teacher tells his parents what happened and drink more at home.

第二天，小H怎么也不愿意进幼儿园，哭闹了非常严重，爸爸不够坚定，看着孩子哭闹心理很不是滋味，还躲在墙外面偷看。就这样一周的情绪都没有得到控制。第二周，妈妈和爸爸送小H入园，虽然他还是哭闹不止，但爸爸已经表现得很坚定了。这一周小H还是不吃不喝也不睡，老师跟父母及时沟通了小H的情况，他有这样的表现就是他没有足够的安全感，面对第一次离开父母还知道怎么面对，爸爸妈妈一定要告知他送他上幼儿园是为了让他结交更多的好朋友和本领，爸爸妈妈晚上一定会接你回家。第二个月的某一天小H从家里带来了一本恐龙的书，妈妈说他非常的喜欢恐龙。于是老师从这个契机入手，了解各种各样的恐龙名称以及它的本领。每次都会在午睡前给小H讲一个恐龙的故事，就这样小H开始愿意在幼儿园吃饭喝水睡觉了。

The next day,little H doesn’t want to go to kindergarten by crying.His daddy is worry about that and this situation lasts for a week.The next week ,little H also refuses to eat,drink and sleep.teacher tells his parents it’s because of that he doesn’t have enough sense of security.For child’s leaving his parents for the first time, his parents must tell him that sending him to kindergarten is to let him make more good friends and skills. His parents will pick you up in the evening.One day in the second month, little H bring a dinosaur book from home. His mother says he likes dinosaurs very much. So the teacher starts from this opportunity to understand all kinds of dinosaur names and their abilities. Every time I would tell little h a dinosaur story before taking a nap. In this way, little H begins to be willing to eat, drink and sleep in the kindergarten.

对于孩子来说，他没有很多的经验去面对突如其来的分离，所以会不知所措。我们只要坚持的做每一件事，抓住好的契机，用自己的爱面对所欲的孩子，总有一天他们会感受到老师对他的爱，从而放下戒备心，开心的入园。For children, he does not have much experience to face the sudden separation, so he will be at a loss. As long as we insist on doing everything, seize good opportunities and face the children we want with our love, one day they will feel the teacher's love for him, so as to put down their vigilance and enter the kindergarten happily.

什么是分离焦虑?

What is separation anxiety?

对于孩子的分离焦虑，其实家长们再熟悉不过。相信不少家长有这样的经历：出门上班要趁孩子没发现，悄悄的离开。

孩子很小的时候，对家长的离开毫无意识，可到了7、8个月大时，孩子的分离焦虑开始出现。他们见到父母离开就会有意识的拼命哭，表现出对分离的焦虑和紧张。每到这时，孩子就跟树袋熊一样，牢牢趴住父母不放手。

这一现象证明，孩子对父母及主要的照料者已形成依恋，他知道谁是给他最强安全感的人，他会有分离的焦虑，是不安全感导致的

当然，很多家长与孩子分离时，自己就非常焦虑。这时候你要知道，你的焦虑情绪也会影响到孩子，此时调整好自己的心态尤为重要。

其实很多时候焦虑的不是孩子，反而是家长。幼儿园的教育，对许多家长来说都是一个不了解的全新领域，未知难免产生恐惧与焦虑；再加上有的孩子的确因为年龄小、依赖性强等原因，表达能力和自理能力都较弱，家长担心也是情有可原。

In fact, parents are familiar with children's separation anxiety. I believe many parents have such experience: when going out to work, they should leave quietly while their children are not found.

When the child was very young, he was unconscious of his parents' departure, but when he was 7 or 8 months old, the child's separation anxiety began to appear. When they see their parents leave, they will consciously cry hard, showing anxiety and tension about separation. At this time, the child is like a koala, firmly lying on his parents.

This phenomenon proves that a child has formed an attachment to his parents and main caregivers. He knows who gives him the strongest sense of security. He will have separation anxiety, which is caused by insecurity

Of course, many parents are very anxious when they are separated from their children. At this time, you should know that your anxiety will also affect your children. It is particularly important to adjust your attitude at this time.

In fact, most of the time, it is not the children who worry, but the parents. Kindergarten education, for many parents, is a new field that they do not understand, and the unknown inevitably produces fear and anxiety; In addition, some children do have weak expression ability and self-care ability because of their young age and strong dependence. Parents' worry is understandable.

● 制造短暂的分离

送孩子去爷爷奶奶家住上一两天，告诉孩子你两天后会来接他；或者试着让孩子独立上课，告诉孩子你就在教室外等他等等，用这样的方式与孩子进行短暂的分离，让孩子慢慢适应

● creating temporary separation

Send your child to your grandparents' house for a day or two and tell your child that you will pick him up in two days; Or try to let the child attend class independently, tell the child that you are waiting for him outside the classroom, and so on. In this way, you can briefly separate from the child and let the child adapt slowly

● 给孩子准备安抚物品

如果孩子表现出较为强烈的焦虑感，可以提前给孩子准备好安抚物。

例如：他最喜欢的玩具、毯子，或者父母的照片等，用这些孩子熟悉的物件增强他们的安全感。

● preparing soothing items for children

If the child shows a strong sense of anxiety, you can prepare comforters for the child in advance.

For example, his favorite toys, blankets, or photos of his parents, use these familiar objects to enhance their sense of security.

● 多给孩子正向鼓励

向幼儿园老师了解孩子入园后的表现，捕捉孩子身上的闪光点，对孩子多进行鼓励和表扬，提高孩子的积极性

● giving children more positive encouragement

Learn from the kindergarten teacher about the child's performance after entering the kindergarten, capture the flash points of the child, encourage and praise the child more, and improve the child's enthusiasm

● 和孩子约定好接送时间并遵守承诺

把孩子送到幼儿园以后，第一时间告诉孩子自己什么时候会离开，什么时间会到幼儿园接他。以此可以帮孩子建立安全感，让他知道自己并不是被抛弃，父母会来接他回家。为更好建立彼此间信任，家长也需要信守承诺

家长们，请信任我们的孩子，相信他们并没有想象中脆弱，他们有自己认知世界的方式和适应环境的方法，并且常常表现惊人，请信任我们的幼儿园，

信任老师，幼儿园有着完整的教育体系和保教制度，专业和充满爱心的幼教工作者

.能够把孩子照顾好，让我们家园携手，坦然而坚定地，陪着孩子迎接新的开始。

● making an appointment with your child and keep your promise

After sending the child to the kindergarten, tell the child when he will leave and when he will pick him up in the kindergarten. This can help the child build a sense of security and let him know that he is not abandoned and that his parents will come to pick him up. In order to build mutual trust much better , parents also need to keep their promises.

Parents, please trust our children, believe that they are not vulnerable in their imagination, they have their own way of understanding the world and adapting to the environment, and often perform amazing.

Please trust our kindergarten,trust teachers, the kindergarten has a complete education system and education protection system, and is a professional and caring preschool education workers that can take good care of our children, let our home join hands and accompany our children to face a new beginning calmly and firmly.